To Tell or Not to Tell About Your Affair

To Tell or Not To Tell

There are many who are dealing with this issue. You need to know that if you tell,
you have to be prepared to deal with the impact this will have on your spouse. Your marriage will never be the same. It will create a tremendous emotional upheaval you must be prepared to resolve. It will take a long time to repair the damage.

You will have to determine how this will affect your spouse.

What good will it do for my spouse to know at this point?
Are you helping them or just unburdening yourself?
Tell me, how would that benefit your spouse?

You should be a “fly on the wall” in a therapist’s office. You should be behind the scenes and hear the cries of a broken heart, a person’s world comes tumbling down, the enormous trust issues that are created.

You can’t imagine the hurt and pain. It is easy to say when you aren’t in that situation and can make a judgment from your comfort zone, but when your marriage and children’s future are at stake, strong emotions come into play. It isn’t so easy.

Dishonesty is not a good thing. But the betrayal has already occurred - you have already been dishonest. Sometimes there is the lesser of 2 evils: There is a time to talk and a time to be quiet. If you have had an affair and your marriage is going through difficulty, consult a licensed professional. .

If you are having an affair that is serious and you want out of the marriage, it is usually better to say that you are unhappy and want out of the marriage, rather than disclose the affair. The divorces that involve an affair are the most painful and take much longer to get over.

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