Are you wondering what happened to the passion, excitement and closeness you once had in your relationship? Your marriage? Are you feeling isolated, lonely and bored? Its probably because you have Drifted apart over the months or years you have been together. This Drifting is often a slow process that isn’t even recognized until you look back and miss what you once had.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist I have frequently noticed over my 15 years of practice, this exact situation with my clients. This Drift Factor robs relationships of joy, closeness and passion until one or the other gets discouraged, resigns themselves to a mediocre existence or leaves.

Think of two rowboats connected together at a dock. Wind and waves loosen and the ties that hold them together and they begin to drift apart. The current carries one far out on the water and the other bobs closer to the shore. Pretty soon they are out of sight of each other. Have you lost sight of each other? Until now, you feel so far apart, you don’t know how you will ever get back that closeness and connection you once had. Sound familiar?

You want to reach out to your loved one but don’t know how. All the old ways don’t work. At this point many get frustrated, give up and leave the relationship or just endure in a quiet desperation that more resembles a shaky arrangement or uneasy trust rather than a loving relationship or a marriage. Some seek companionship and romance in an affair. Others eat or drink away their blues. Some bury themselves in their work or activities or devote all their time to the children. Its not what you expected or wanted.

This book I am working on, “Four and Four = Mate”, is tailored to reverse this Drift and help couples re-bond. I have found Four Factors that bond couples together by helping them become more connected, have more fun, enjoy more intimacy, and have better understanding of each another. Who wants to leave a relationship that has all that? Who has to live in desperation when you have a renewed and re-energized relationship like that?

But that’s not all. Most couples are not equipped for a long term committed relationship. They lack the skills to successfully navigate life experiences and resolve personal differences. Here again, I have found Four Skills, which equip couples to work out problems they encounter by giving them a new structure upon which to build. Learning and practicing these basic skills plus a renewed bond unites couples and builds a more stable structure for a relationship.

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